When I was in high school, while teachers kept saying "you must make friends while you're at school, because it is difficult to do when you're in college or the workforce. "I heard with some sadness, because I had no friends. (At least, I thought like that at the time. I realize now that some considered me a friend, but that's it, tortured adolescence.)
But fortunately, I had a lot friends in college, and even if I do not see long gone for most, they remain good friends in my heart. Even in France, I befriended a lot of people. So why all these teachers emphasized the time it took to make friends while we were in high school, as if it was an ultimatum? In addition, before I leave in France, all the teachers of the university who had stayed in France said, "In France, we can not make friends. "So is it that my case is rare, if not exceptional?
In college, I was asked this question sometimes, "Why you (the) know? " on a (e) of my friends. My answer was always "I met (e) on the lawn. "I do not know if some still do now at this school, but at the time, there was often a little impromptu aperitif on the lawn. I often hung out there, and that's how I make friends. But it is quite easy to imagine (I think) a very small number of Japanese students behave well. In most cases, they are friends only in clubs ("circles") or in the classroom to the limit. That's why people were curious as I had friends do not belong to the same club. We called our "club" Club Lawn. It was composed of people easy access, who could be friends without belonging to the same clan. But the term "accessible" does not mean they were regarded by other people as gays and open ( Akarui ). Instead, they were often seen as dark ( Kurai ).
I think since my adolescence there is an inversion between these two words Akarui and Kurai and their definitions in Japan. A person called gay and cheerful ( Akarui , "Clear" to the letter) is sometimes an individual who fears being seen as someone with dark ( Kurai ). By cons, a person called Kurai find this stupid fear. (At least, I have always thought like that.) Of course this reasoning does not apply to everyone. Some people naturally happy people and very gloomy. But the fact remains that people who do not make an effort to show Akarui are considered Kurai . I imagine that people who have spent a teenager Kurai in Japan have rather the ability to adapt to life abroad. I should add that all these cultures of manga and video games are made by people Kurai?
I found an interesting analysis of the Japanese in a dialogue of John Cleese with his psychiatrist ( How to be a happy neurotic ). They say that a Japanese fits rather well with the foreign company, where he lives alone. But soon they form a group, they make up a closed community.
Currently, I live in such a well established Japanese community in Algeria. Before coming here I naively thought I could live Algerian life, but I realize that I still live in Japan in Algeria. And I guess that's what most Japanese nationals. They believe working abroad, but they continue to live in Japan. Everything was planned so that they can live a life in Japan outside of Japan. And these Japanese
make friends with Algerians? I'm not saying never, but it's pretty rare. An Algerian colleague gave me a very interesting observation. "The Japanese do not bind a friendship with the Algerians, but I noticed that there is no friendship even among the Japanese. Maybe is the mentality, I do not know. "I spoke to Algerian friend who works here, but he responded immediately. "But we have all noticed! There are only clans, but there is no friendship among the Japanese. "Ah then, my teachers were right?! These serious Japanese who devote their lives to the company, they have not made any friends since high school? The failure in Japan
social networks like Facebook and MySpace is best known. By cons, Mixi is a social network has closed a great success. Apparently (I am not a member of Mixi), comments on Mixi are really anarchic. Is the closure that gives them insurance. But the comments of the Japanese seen on MySpace, for example are often incomprehensibly bland (unlike my blog XD). They think of everything so as not to offend the people they know only online. That is probably the mentality. We can not make friends like that. And I wonder where does this difference between the Japanese honey and my colleagues surly towards the Algerians. Perhaps this discrepancy is not it so great. There is the same closed-mindedness. And even I find it hard to make friends here, while being a member of a Japanese community abroad. Japanese people like dark
( Nihon-jin-tté kuraï-né )
Les Japonais sont maussades.
C'est une chanson du groupe Jagatara, mais introuvable sur internet: (
But fortunately, I had a lot friends in college, and even if I do not see long gone for most, they remain good friends in my heart. Even in France, I befriended a lot of people. So why all these teachers emphasized the time it took to make friends while we were in high school, as if it was an ultimatum? In addition, before I leave in France, all the teachers of the university who had stayed in France said, "In France, we can not make friends. "So is it that my case is rare, if not exceptional?
In college, I was asked this question sometimes, "Why you (the) know? " on a (e) of my friends. My answer was always "I met (e) on the lawn. "I do not know if some still do now at this school, but at the time, there was often a little impromptu aperitif on the lawn. I often hung out there, and that's how I make friends. But it is quite easy to imagine (I think) a very small number of Japanese students behave well. In most cases, they are friends only in clubs ("circles") or in the classroom to the limit. That's why people were curious as I had friends do not belong to the same club. We called our "club" Club Lawn. It was composed of people easy access, who could be friends without belonging to the same clan. But the term "accessible" does not mean they were regarded by other people as gays and open ( Akarui ). Instead, they were often seen as dark ( Kurai ).
I think since my adolescence there is an inversion between these two words Akarui and Kurai and their definitions in Japan. A person called gay and cheerful ( Akarui , "Clear" to the letter) is sometimes an individual who fears being seen as someone with dark ( Kurai ). By cons, a person called Kurai find this stupid fear. (At least, I have always thought like that.) Of course this reasoning does not apply to everyone. Some people naturally happy people and very gloomy. But the fact remains that people who do not make an effort to show Akarui are considered Kurai . I imagine that people who have spent a teenager Kurai in Japan have rather the ability to adapt to life abroad. I should add that all these cultures of manga and video games are made by people Kurai?
I found an interesting analysis of the Japanese in a dialogue of John Cleese with his psychiatrist ( How to be a happy neurotic ). They say that a Japanese fits rather well with the foreign company, where he lives alone. But soon they form a group, they make up a closed community.
Currently, I live in such a well established Japanese community in Algeria. Before coming here I naively thought I could live Algerian life, but I realize that I still live in Japan in Algeria. And I guess that's what most Japanese nationals. They believe working abroad, but they continue to live in Japan. Everything was planned so that they can live a life in Japan outside of Japan. And these Japanese
make friends with Algerians? I'm not saying never, but it's pretty rare. An Algerian colleague gave me a very interesting observation. "The Japanese do not bind a friendship with the Algerians, but I noticed that there is no friendship even among the Japanese. Maybe is the mentality, I do not know. "I spoke to Algerian friend who works here, but he responded immediately. "But we have all noticed! There are only clans, but there is no friendship among the Japanese. "Ah then, my teachers were right?! These serious Japanese who devote their lives to the company, they have not made any friends since high school? The failure in Japan
social networks like Facebook and MySpace is best known. By cons, Mixi is a social network has closed a great success. Apparently (I am not a member of Mixi), comments on Mixi are really anarchic. Is the closure that gives them insurance. But the comments of the Japanese seen on MySpace, for example are often incomprehensibly bland (unlike my blog XD). They think of everything so as not to offend the people they know only online. That is probably the mentality. We can not make friends like that. And I wonder where does this difference between the Japanese honey and my colleagues surly towards the Algerians. Perhaps this discrepancy is not it so great. There is the same closed-mindedness. And even I find it hard to make friends here, while being a member of a Japanese community abroad. Japanese people like dark
( Nihon-jin-tté kuraï-né )
Les Japonais sont maussades.
C'est une chanson du groupe Jagatara, mais introuvable sur internet: (
